Talk Dirty to Me: An Intimate Philosophy of Sex

desire

• Real sex, the sex in our cells and in the space between our neurons, leaks out and stains our vision and colors our lives. This is what we never say.

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shame

• I was ashamed, simply ashamed of my own unasked-for appetites and shockingly incorrect fantasies, which would not be still.

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• It was not a sin until I planned and carried it out consciously. Ever afterward, masturbation has been accompanied by desire, guilt, excitement, shame, and the fear of getting caught.

  TDM-009

• I used to imagine eyes on me then, and the eyes were my mother's eyes, and, worse, my father's. They watched the little girl inside me and chided her for a naughty girl.

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erotic-as-power

• My collage: masked men and women, naked torsos, skin everywhere, darkness, heat. I didn't expect the ringing silence with which it was met.

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• I like that fantasy. But I didn't like this film, and it took me a while to identify the two problems.

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